feeling like things are a little unfair

we don't like being taken advantage of. for example, if you always clean up after your housemate, and they never clean up after you, this doesn't sit well.

to avoid being taken advantage of, we roughly track how much we've done for someone and how much they've done for us. it's annoying if someone does this tracking excessively, but i think everybody does it to some degree.

however, this tracking is not an exact science. there's lots of uncertainty. and most importantly, i think we probably tend (more often than not) to give ourselves the benefit of this doubt.

what this means is that if things are "objectively" fair, each person will feel like they're giving slightly more than the other person, in the long run.

so this is probably the feeling we should be expecting, and accepting.